Communicating Verbally, With Confidence!

Communication skills are some of the most sought after skills in business. They are equally essential in the classroom, in the pageant interview or at home.
Follow these eight tips and you’ll be quick to outclass your competition!
1. Stop what you are doing and listen. Nothing says, “I care and am interested in you,” more than active listening. Don’t look around the room for better action, don’t continue working and whatever you do, don’t read or send texts when someone is trying to have a conversation with you. As a mother, I find myself picking up, cooking or otherwise flitting around the house when my daughters are trying to talk to me. It’s rude and communicates to them that what I am doing is more important than what they want to tell me. I’m working on it! Stop and listen. You’ll be richer for it.
2. Articulate. There is a time in young people’s lives – I think middle school – when whatever is coming out of their mouths is impossible to understand. You don’t want to sound like a middle-schooler, having to repeat everything you say because no one can understand you. Speak slowly and articulate your words. You’ll sound intelligent, be understood and the receiver of your message will thank you.
3. Look the person in the eye. Avoid eye contact and you are communicating your insincerity, boredom or general lack of interest. Connect and good things could happen!
4. Use proper grammar. Poor grammar is a dead give away that you are not a top candidate in your class, for a job, for a pageant title or for a spokesperson’s spot. Don’t ask, “where’s it at?” Ask, “where is it?” If you are excited, say, “I’m eager.” Not, “I’m anxious.” You do things well; something tastes or feels good. Use the right word the right way.
5. More on grammar. Why do some people add an “s” to names and titles? For example, you hear, “J. C. Pennys.” But the store is J. C. Penny. Some will say “anyways,” when they really mean, “anyway.” Don’t ask, “do you want to go to Barnes and Nobles?” It’s Barnes and Noble. Be careful!
6. Speak actively and definitively. I don’t know why, but it is easier to write passively. And it seems to be working its way into verbal communication. When working with clients on interviewing, I will ask something like, “what do you want to do in the future?” And my client will answer, “I think, I probably would like to…” How about, “I want to…I will…I plan to…” Just say what it is.
7. Avoid, um, using, um, like, um, UMS! Just say no. Do you need an explanation?
8. Don’t be distracting. Don’t pop your knuckles, play with your hair or crack your gum. You shouldn’t be chewing gum in public anyway! Keep nervous habits locked up. Or better yet, break them.
Speak well, be taken seriously and land the job, promotion or title.
Author: Robin Jones Gifford

Getting Along With Other People

At times, it is difficult to get along with some people in your life. Over the years, I have returned to this piece, written by Ann Landers, as a tool to eliminate the negative thinking and to find goodwill in my disappointed heart. I hope that it helps you also.
Ten Commandments of How To Get Along With People
1. Keep skid chains on your tongue; always say less than you think. Cultivate a low, persuasive voice. How you say it counts more than what you say.
2. Make promises sparingly, and keep them faithfully, no matter what it costs.
3. Never let an opportunity pass to say a kind and encouraging word to or about somebody. Praise good work, regardless of who did it. If criticism is needed, criticize helpfully, never spitefully.
4. Be interested in others; their pursuits, their work, their homes and families. Make merry with those who rejoice; with those who weep, mourn. Let everyone you meet, however humble, feel that you regard him as a person of importance.
5. Be cheerful. Don’t burden or depress those around you by dwelling on your minor aches and pains and small disappointments. Remember, everyone is carrying some kind of a load.
6. Keep an open mind. Discuss but don’t argue. It is a mark of a superior mind to be able to disagree without being disagreeable.
7. Let your virtues speak for themselves. Refuse to talk of another’s vices. Discourage gossip. It is a waste of valuable time and can be extremely destructive.
8. Be careful of another’s feelings. Wit and humor at the other person’s expense are rarely worth it and may hurt when least expected.
9. Pay no attention to ill-natured remarks about you. Remember, the person who carried the message may not be the most accurate reporter in the world. Simply live so that nobody will believe them. Disordered nerves and bad digestion are a common cause of backbiting.
10. Don’t be too anxious about the credit due you. Do your best, and be patient. Forget about yourself, and let others “remember.” Success is much sweeter that way.
Author: Ann Landers

Affirmation for the Week:
“I am fine-tuning my attitude by applying right-thinking commandments.”
Have a Ten-commanding week!
SOURCE : Mary Rau-Foster

How Gratitude Moves You Forward to Create Lasting Happiness

The quickest way to change your life is to start practicing gratitude!
Why is this?
It is because Gratitude is the ‘Grand Pooh-bah’ of all positive emotional states. Where there is gratitude there is also love, joy, inner peace, forgiveness, compassion, possibilities and all goodness. These qualities follow gratitude everywhere it goes!
I have personally found that developing an attitude of gratitude allows you to:
Make peace with yourself.
Shift your attention to the positive.
Be open to opportunities.
To welcome new things in our lives we must first make peace with where we are. What we resist will persist. Creating true change starts with acceptance. Gratitude is the gateway to this acceptance. Gratitude shifts our attention to living in the moment. We move out of wishful thinking and assume responsibility for where we are. If we can express gratitude no matter what is happening in our lives we soften and become more open to expressing love, joy, peace, forgiveness and all goodness.
When our attention is on gratitude we start feeling more positive and energized. This is because when we acknowledge the good in our lives we start to see and experience more good. What we give our attention to is what we our giving power and life to. In this sense, gratitude shifts our focus from the negative to the positive. Maintaining positive thinking becomes easier when our attention is on what is working in our lives.
When our attention is focused on what is good in our life, we are able to see more possibilities. Gratitude opens us up and makes us more available. We can see opportunities and solutions to our problems more clearly. Gratitude lifts us up and removes the blinders so we can see the good that is always around us.
Creating lasting happiness starts with cultivating gratitude. Because the magic of gratitude is… The more we are grateful, the more we have to be grateful for!
Author: Fiona Adams –