Chit Chatting

I’m having a hard time at work once in a while, and I really want someone to talk with. Someone who know about what I’m doing with my job, someone who can see a clear picture of what I’m doing. There were only 2 person I can talk with..Lam and Chris both are my friends as well as colleague.

When I need someone to talk to, will chat with Chris for some matter and for Lam as well plus some personal stuff or movie or gossiping. I feel relief when chatting just what I did last saturday – sitting at Starbuck with a cup of frappucino.


I told her about my work, asking what I supposed to do. When I think of resigning ..what am I’m going to do?? Business? What kind of business? Model? Place or online? Do have a lot of thing to think before setting up a business.Online business is easy but what am I going to sell? Where to get those stock? Well, is not easy to set up a business- actually is easy to say that done !!! What say you?

What I will say, though, quoting Godin is that you have to find a way to be exceptional. Remarkable people with remarkable careers seem to switch jobs with for less effort. Remarkable people often don’t even have a resume.Instead they rely on sneezers who are quick to recommend them when openings coming up. Remarkable people are often recruited from jobs they love to jobs they love even more. And the way to be exceptional ? Work on high profile projects take risks, learn from your mistakes, try new things, and do these when you are not looking for a job! The perfect job will then find you.

9 Beliefs of Remarkably Successful People

1. Time doesn’t fill me. I fill time.

Deadlines and time frames establish parameters, but typically not in a good way. The average person who is given two weeks to complete a task will instinctively adjust his effort so it actually takes two weeks.

Forget deadlines, at least as a way to manage your activity. Tasks should only take as long as they need to take. Do everything as quickly and effectively as you can. Then use your “free” time to get other things done just as quickly and effectively.

Average people allow time to impose its will on them; remarkable people impose their will on their time.

2. The people around me are the people I chose.

Some of your employees drive you nuts. Some of your customers are obnoxious. Some of your friends are selfish, all-about-me jerks.

You chose them. If the people around you make you unhappy it’s not their fault. It’s your fault. They’re in your professional or personal life because you drew them to you–and you let them remain.

Think about the type of people you want to work with. Think about the types of customers you would enjoy serving. Think about the friends you want to have.

Then change what you do so you can start attracting those people. Hardworking people want to work with hardworking people. Kind people like to associate with kind people. Remarkable employees want to work for remarkable bosses.

Successful people are naturally drawn to successful people.

3. I have never paid my dues.

Dues aren’t paid, past tense. Dues get paid, each and every day. The only real measure of your value is the tangible contribution you make on a daily basis.

No matter what you’ve done or accomplished in the past, you’re never too good to roll up your sleeves, get dirty, and do the grunt work. No job is ever too menial, no task ever too unskilled or boring.

Remarkably successful people never feel entitled–except to the fruits of their labor.

4. Experience is irrelevant. Accomplishments are everything.

You have “10 years in the Web design business.” Whoopee. I don’t care how long you’ve been doing what you do. Years of service indicate nothing; you could be the worst 10-year programmer in the world.

I care about what you’ve done: how many sites you’ve created, how many back-end systems you’ve installed, how many customer-specific applications you’ve developed (and what kind)… all that matters is what you’ve done.

Successful people don’t need to describe themselves using hyperbolic adjectives like passionate, innovative, driven, etc. They can just describe, hopefully in a humble way, what they’ve done.

5. Failure is something I accomplish; it doesn’t just happen to me.

Ask people why they have been successful. Their answers will be filled with personal pronouns: I, me, and the sometimes too occasional we.

Ask them why they failed. Most will revert to childhood and instinctively distance themselves, like the kid who says, “My toy got broken…” instead of, “I broke my toy.”

They’ll say the economy tanked. They’ll say the market wasn’t ready. They’ll say their suppliers couldn’t keep up.

They’ll say it was someone or something else.

And by distancing themselves, they don’t learn from their failures.

Occasionally something completely outside your control will cause you to fail. Most of the time, though, it’s you. And that’s okay. Every successful person has failed. Numerous times. Most of them have failed a lot more often than you. That’s why they’re successful now.

Embrace every failure: Own it, learn from it, and take full responsibility for making sure that next time, things will turn out differently.

6. Volunteers always win.

Whenever you raise your hand you wind up being asked to do more.

That’s great. Doing more is an opportunity: to learn, to impress, to gain skills, to build new relationships–to do something more than you would otherwise been able to do.

Success is based on action. The more you volunteer, the more you get to act. Successful people step forward to create opportunities.

Remarkably successful people sprint forward.

7. As long as I’m paid well, it’s all good.

Specialization is good. Focus is good. Finding a niche is good.

Generating revenue is great.

Anything a customer will pay you a reasonable price to do–as long as it isn’t unethical, immoral, or illegal–is something you should do. Your customers want you to deliver outside your normal territory? If they’ll pay you for it, fine. They want you to add services you don’t normally include? If they’ll pay you for it, fine. The customer wants you to perform some relatively manual labor and you’re a high-tech shop? Shut up, roll ’em up, do the work, and get paid.

Only do what you want to do and you might build an okay business. Be willing to do what customers want you to do and you can build a successful business.

Be willing to do even more and you can build a remarkable business.

And speaking of customers…

8. People who pay me always have the right to tell me what to do.

Get over your cocky, pretentious, I-must-be-free-to-express-my-individuality self. Be that way on your own time.

The people who pay you, whether customers or employers, earn the right to dictate what you do and how you do it–sometimes down to the last detail.

Instead of complaining, work to align what you like to do with what the people who pay you want you to do.

Then you turn issues like control and micro-management into non-issues.

9. The extra mile is a vast, unpopulated wasteland.

Everyone says they go the extra mile. Almost no one actually does. Most people who go there think, “Wait… no one else is here… why am I doing this?” and leave, never to return.

That’s why the extra mile is such a lonely place.

That’s also why the extra mile is a place filled with opportunities.

Be early. Stay late. Make the extra phone call. Send the extra email. Do the extra research. Help a customer unload or unpack a shipment. Don’t wait to be asked; offer. Don’t just tell employees what to do–show them what to do and work beside them.

Every time you do something, think of one extra thing you can do–especially if other people aren’t doing that one thing. Sure, it’s hard.

But that’s what will make you different.

And over time, that’s what will make you incredibly successful

Secret Scrolls

From The Secret Daily Teachings

If you are complaining about things in your life, you are on the complaining frequency, and you are not in a position to attract what you want.
Get on to the frequency of good with your thoughts and words. Firstly you will feel good, and secondly you will be on the frequency of receiving more good.

May the joy be with you,

Rhonda Byrne
The Secret… bringing joy to billions

Are we forever busy?

December does makes one think about time and what we have done-or not done- over the past year.

The younger folks probably do not quite appreciate an uncle like me writing this column at a coffee joint.

I am pretending to look cool with earplugs connected to my iPod Touch while the notebook is plugged to the Wifi network ( how interesting that the password at this place is nasilemak).

They do not know, of course, that I am listening to the golden oldies hundreds of them on my playlist, and letting my mind drift to a time when songs had lyrics we could understand, even if they sounded so corny.

Simon and Garfunkel are singing, “Slow down, you move too fast, you’ve got to make the morning last….”

The young couple at the next time, who are obviously talking with each other through their smart phones, must be wondering why there is a smile on my face.

It’s December and we know that everyone is saying: “ Wah, December already. The year just flew by, didn’t it?”

The analytical person in me will reply: You repeat yourself every year. I don’t think it went any faster. It’s just a perception.

Time, of course cannot move faster or slower. We are, after all, blessed with the same amount of it daily.

But it is what we do with our time that is different. The choices we make and the priorities we set determine the busyness of our lives.

Is everything always urgent and important? Are we meant to be perpetually connected such that the loss of a mobile phone brings more grief than the loss of a friend’s mother?

And why are we in such a ‘forever busy mode’ that we cannot ignore any SMS coming in-even in the midst of a solemn occasion like a funeral service?

Do you remember the resolutions you made in January about taking better care of your health, spending more time with loved ones and talking short holidays to relax and rejuvenate?

Okay, here are your reasons why they have been ignored: No time, too busy, something else came up.

Tim Kreidel wrote an excellent article in The New York Times back in June, titled ‘The Busy Trap’.

Because it has gone viral, anyone connected to the internet is bound to get linked to it somehow.

He has an interesting premise. Basically, Kreidel believes that we like to boast about our hectic lives to feel important.

He wrote : ‘Almost everyone I know is busy. They feel anxious and guilty when they aren’t either working or doing something…busyness is purely self-imposed; work and obligations they’ve taken on voluntarily, classes and and activities they’ve encouraged their kids to participate in.

They’re busy because of their own ambition or drive or anxiety, because they’re addicted to busyness and dread what they might have to face in its absence.

Wow. Is he talking to me? Is he talking to you?

Why am I working at a place where I am supposed to relax over a cuppa and engage in meaningful conversation with a friend face to face?

December does makes one think about time and what we have done- or not done – over the past year.

It can be a year of wonderful moments or about missed opportunities.

To have more of the former, it involves us deliberately saying goodbye to Busy, so that it does not fill up every minute of our Life.

Kreidel ended his articles with this line, ‘ Life is too short to be busy.’ How true.

This articles taken from the Sunday Star by Deputy executive editor Soo Ewe Jin.

Put Power Behind Your Goals

“Formalize your commitment and you’ll see results.”

An excellent way to formalize your goals and commitments is by writing a contract to yourself. Spell out clearly and precisely as you can what your goals are. Include step-by-step details of how and when you are going to achieve them. Sign and date your contract. Next share it with someone you trust and post it where you will see it and be reminded by it. And, as with all contracts stick to the obligations.

Don’t forget to include in your contract how you are going to reward yourself for your accomplishments. You have made a deal with yourself. You have worked hard and when you’re done you deserve a reward.

©Jane Powell – Meditations for Women

Today’s Affirmation: I’m formalizing my commitments and seeing results.

Reflecting on the year

We have finally reached the end of 2012. For many, this is the time of the year to look back at our lives during the year that just completed and think. At a personal and professional level, did we do everything we planned to do? Did we progress as much as we thought and wanted to at the beginning of the year? Did we learn all those new skills, all the new information? Did we grow as characters and as ‘workers? This is the time of the year to sit down and do our own appraisal. Think of all the areas that we wanted to develop ourselves in, and evaluate our progress. And then think about the reasons that allowed us to progress. And then think about the reasons that allowed us to progress, and the ones that kept us from doing so. Only by a sincere self-appraisal can a person really understand what is going on- what actions are beneficial, and what needs to be done to see further progress in the year ahead.

So, here is your thought for this week – if you haven’t already done so, take some time and isolate yourself from everything and everyone, and give yourself the honesty you deserve – note down your aspirations at the beginning of 2012, and evaluate your progress. And if you find that some areas did not develop as much as you had liked them to do so, try to understand why and plan better for the year ahead. So better get cracking – but remember to be honest with yourself.

I should post this early..but I save this in another laptop. I need to reflect what did I do in 2012??

2012 in review

The stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

19,000 people fit into the new Barclays Center to see Jay-Z perform. This blog was viewed about 69,000 times in 2012. If it were a concert at the Barclays Center, it would take about 4 sold-out performances for that many people to see it.

Click here to see the complete report.