When I say ‘reverse the negativity in your relationships’ that doesn’t mean you are suddenly going to do 3 things and make the negative person positive. It DOES mean that you will have 3 things you can do to shift YOUR reaction energy from negative to positive. Your reality is your reality – if you shift your energy and your reaction energy – you shift your reality.
And remember – you truly can’t control someone else. You can only control what part you play in the cycle of energy – so, from now on, ask yourself if you want to be part of the negative cycle or the positive one? You are that powerful, you can decide.
With that in mind, let’s get into the 3 Steps to Reverse Negative Energy…
The 3 Steps to Reverse Negative Energy Are:
Step 1: It has nothing to do with you.
How someone else is acting has nothing to do with you, even if it is directed at you. We all have our own dramas that we will play out with whoever is willing to play the other roles.
Every time someone directs negative energy at you, if you can remind yourself that it has nothing to do with you, it will shift your entire perspective and allow you to remove your stakes in the situation which will allow you how to respond differently and without a need to defend because it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.
When you are met with negative energy, make your new mantra, “It has nothing to do with me.” And you will be amazed at how quickly your energy shifts from negative to positive.
Step 2: Healing is in the opposite
When we feel discordant with someone and their energy, it is easy to get sucked into that feeling and start noticing anything and everything that gives us proof of how negative they are.
But the healing of the energy is in the opposite. Every single person has positive within them. I know it is true, because for the negative to exist, the positive must also be there.
So, your new approach is this…
When you feel discordant with someone and their energy, instantly start paying attention and looking for PROOF of their positive. Focus ONLY on this and your energy will shift from negative to positive quickly.
Step 3: Send love
Negative energy relationships (ongoing or fleeting interactions) need to shift for the good of all involved.
Fighting each other doesn’t work – and you can’t change another person and you can’t sit around waiting for them to change the energy of your relationship.
What you can do is send as much love toward the other person as possible, it may be hard at first, but when you do, they will feel less resistance from you. Negative energy feeds off of resistance. Remove the resistance and you raise the energy vibration.
Sending love doesn’t mean you are letting it be ok that someone treats you poorly, it does mean that you separate you from it and remind yourself that how they are treating you has NOTHING to do with you and everything to do with them and their pain and their scars and their struggles – and that pain, those scars and those struggles deserve love. Sometimes that adjustment in awareness can really help things resolve.
One of my favorite things to remind myself of is this – “I don’t have to like someone’s behavior, I don’t have to choose to be a part of it and interact with it, but I can see it for what it is, I can see where it is really coming from, and when I do that, I can send love.”
We all have behaviors that are covering our pain, scars and struggles – and we ALL deserve love.
And here’s the kicker – typically our negative behavior forms because we are protecting ourselves from something and often, what we create with our fear based behavior is the very thing we were protecting ourselves from in the first place.
For example: Jane feels unlovable – and her greatest fear is feeling disconnected from the people she loves because to her that means she really is unlovable. So, to protect herself, she pushes the people she loves and puts tons of pressure on them to connect – because of that pressure, the people she loves back off. She feels that distance and panics because her greatest fear is that she is unlovable. And then the cycle begins again.
Does all of this mean that you just take it and allow yourself to be a punching bag? No – because being a punching bag or not saying anything and leaving things unresolved only adds to the negative energy. What this does mean is that you can inform your response with love and with a certain amount of distance so that you don’t take it personally AND you can learn to look for the opposite energy in everyone and every situation – when you do, energy will shift within you and around you.
And remember 1 final thing – you are magnificent and you don’t need to prove that to anyone because it is the truth. I believe in you and I send you love!