Self improvement

Focus on the Present

Post written by Lou Macabasco – Yanuaria

Do you find yourself regretting about the past and worrying about the future? Do you feel like you’re not having the best time of your life at present?

A lot of us neglect to enjoy and appreciate the present because we are either too busy working and preparing for the future, or we can’t let go and move on from our past. As such, we live our present with anxiety and stress or worry and regret. We fail to do our best in living the most of the present.

When we live regretting the past and worrying about the future, we tend to become unhappy and ungrateful of our present-day. It gives us reason to focus on what we don’t have instead of being grateful of what we do have.

When we don’t know how to live in the present, we fail to give our best in what we do which drowns us to complaining on the things that we don’t like instead of rejoicing on what we like.

The worse thing that happens when we don’t know how to enjoy the present is that we develop a negative attitude. We become irritable, complainer, unpleasant and stressed. Throughout the day, what we focus to see, think and say are all negative things. As such, people find it difficult and depressing to deal with us. Our negative attitude shows in our aura, body and facial expression. It becomes part of our habit and then eventually, becomes part of who we are.

‘Today is life – the only life you are sure of. Make the most of today.” by Dale Carnegie

Today, the present, is the only sure day we have, so why live it with regret, worry, negative thinking and ungratefulness?
The Importance of Focusing on the Present

In the past, I was one of those who can’t let go and regretful of the past while I worry and get anxious about the future. I tend to live the present with “what ifs”, “I wish I did this and that” or “it should be like this and that”. Then I get frustrated and depressed when my present life was far from what I wish or expect it to be.

My worry and anxious attitude affected not only how I feel but as well as how I decide and act on things. I rush and exhaust myself with so many activities and work in a day. The last thing I do is slow down and take a break. I even deprive myself from complete sleep and healthy habits. Until one day, I got sick, physically and emotionally, that I needed to take a break.

During my break, I started reading self-help and personal development books. I knew something wasn’t good and right with my negative thinking that’s why I wanted to resolve it. I wanted to change and improve myself. Fortunately, with my desire and persistence to change I was able to overcome the negative thinking and became more optimistic. It didn’t happen overnight, it took months of learning and application before it finally changed my outlook.

The valuable lesson I’ve learned on such experience is the importance of living in the present.
When we stop thinking too much about our past or future, and start to think of the present, our thoughts shifts from “I wish or I should” to “I will or I am”. That simple change in words or thoughts will change us from being a victim of circumstance into becoming a victor. We realize that we have a choice to enjoy and make the most of the present. And we chose not to waste it with negative thinking, worrying or regretting. Living in the present reminds us that today is what we have; we can either waste it or live it to the fullest.

Allow me to repeat and highlight that sentence again:

Living in the present reminds us that today is what we have; we can either waste it or live it to the fullest.

When we learn to live in the present we develop gratitude and enthusiasm in our life, as compared to feeling worried, stressed or anxious brought by past experiences and future expectations. We will start to enjoy what we do and be happy with what we have. And as we continue living with gratitude, we are able to bring more positive things in our life.

Remember that happiness is a state of mind, as well as misery. By living in the present, remind yourself to focus your thoughts on what is good and what you have while you still can.

“To get up each morning with the resolve to be happy… is to set our own conditions to the events of each day. To do this is to condition circumstances instead of being conditioned by them.” by Ralph Waldo Trine


Another one…l.o.v.e.

I Will Love You Forever
I love you so deeply,
I love you so much,
I love the sound of your voice
And the way that we touch.
I love your warm smile
And your kind, thoughtful way,
The joy that you bring
To my life every day.
I love you today
As I have from the start,
And I’ll love you forever
With all of my heart


Found this poems…1

♥♥♥♥ I Want You To Hug Me When I’m Near You.
I Want You To Hold My Hand When You’re Near Me.
I Want You To Kiss Me When We’re Alone.
I Want You To Hold Me When I Sit Near You.
I Want You To Comfort Me When I’m Upset.
I Want You To Make Me Smile When I Feel Bad.
I Want You To Make Me Laugh When I Cry.
I Want You To Call My Name.
I Want You To Say You Love Me.
I Want You!
Only You.
YOU. ♥♥♥♥



I’m Committed But I’m Single…
My Love ‘n My Faith is only for you…

In My Mind You Are the only one who Rules..
‘n I Let no one else come into my Life…

I know I’ll never Get You As Mine..
But Still My Heart ‘n Soul Waits for ur Love…

I Wish You to have a Happy Life..
With Your Love…
Where You Get all Your Happiness ‘n Love..
But I Belive that None can Love You More Than Me..

I’m Committed for the World..
But For you I’m still Single..’n I’ll always Be…
Committed only towards Your Love.!

Found it in a website 🙂


Another love poems

i Am Sorry
I Know You Don’t Care.
‘n I Know I Don’t Listen,
But Please Take A Seat ,
So You Can Listen.

I Am So Sorry For What I Said To You.
You Have No Idea What I Have Been Through,
I Am Sorry For Yelling At The Top Of My Lungs.
I Am Sorry For Speaking In Tongues ,

I Know I Am Not Perfect,
Without A Doubt.
I Have Many Problems,
So Try Not To Shout,

I Know Its My Fault,
I Shall Act Like This,
The Way I Used To Be,
I Really Miss,

I Am Sorry For What I Have Put You Through,
What Ever I Can Do To Help,
I Shall Do,

Sorry For Falling In Love With You,
But I Always Thought,
Our Love Shall Be True..!


Love poems

one of Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s classic poems:

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of everyday’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with a passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, — I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! — and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.


What leap will you make

For most of us, today is a day of rest. But for our fellow citizens in the states of Kedah, Kelantan and Trengganu, Sunday is actually the first day of their working week.
There is not common weekend in M’sia, so terms like “Monday blues’, or ‘Thank god it’s friday’ take on a different meaning when you are in a different state.

I wonder if you remember what happened on Dec 31, 1981, when at 11.30pm , all of us in the peninsula adjusted our clocks and watches by 30 min to march straight into Jan 1, 1982, and thereby match the time in use in West M’sia.

Even S’pore had no choice but to make the adjustment since it would be rather odd if had a different time from KL.

As you can see, time and dates, at least the ones designed by humans, can always be changed and adjusted.

And the reason I am bringing this up is that this Wednesday is Feb 29, a once in four years occurrence that gives an extra day to Feb.

The extra day in a leap year is necessary for us to keep our calender in alignment with the earth’s revolution around the sun, which is actually 365 days and about six hours long. We humans may count everything in whole numbers but the celestial bodies have their own timeline.

And so we have all been blessed with an extra day this year. What shall we do with the extra 24 hours ?

I have a suggestion : How about if we do things we do not usually do and add up the time as credit minutes or hours until we reach 24 hours.

We can spread out these ‘leap year actions’ throughout the year and see how they add up.

This coming Wednesday, I’m be on leave, counting the hours I where do I spend?? First of all the though I could sleep late, but my mum need to go to U.M for her half yearly check up which fall on this day.

May going out shopping, is still have time with my sister. Spending some time with my love one online. I don’t know what I would do to reach up to 24 hours????

Like Learn to listen (2 hours) The reason God gave us two ears and one mouth is so we can listen more and talk less. Visit a friend but instead of dispensing advice, hold her/his hand and listen.

Or maybe write a letter to a loved one (1 hours) no sms, no email, no facebook, no twitter, but good old fashioned snail mail in your own handwriting.

Say thank you (1 min) leave a thank you note on your postbox for the post man. haha!!!!

Sometimes,we need to do things ourselves to experience the whole kaleidoscope of life, which is truly about how we interact with one another. And interaction is not only among our immediate circle of family, friends and colleagues, but even with those we connect with briefly.

Lives have been changed because of that one moment. Imagine how many lives you can impact if you use the extra 24 hours this year in a meaningful way.

Self improvement

Adapting to Change

The ability to adapt into a particular environment, circumstance or change, whether it’s positive or negative, is probably one of the great attitude of people who are able to live their life to the fullest.

To adapt means to make fit in, to adjust, to reconcile, or to make suitable in a given situation or scenario.

For many of us, we insist with things like “it should be” or “must be” rather than accept things as it is. And as we continue to resist instead of adapting to circumstances or environment, it arises our stress, disappointment, lack of fulfillment and misery.
One of the changes I made in my attitude that made my life much easier was to be more adaptable into circumstances. A weakness I identified with my personality was being too perfectionist or idealist. I tend to set too high standard on many things, both in my personal and professional life. Additionally, I’m too organized with almost everything. I prefer things to be in order, and as such, I want or expect things to work according to what I wanted and planned. And if it doesn’t, I get stressed out, negative and depressed. Oftentimes, I insist and persist to what I want that leads me to create much greater problem, such as committing mistakes or broken relationships.

Fortunately, by putting my interest and investing my time in personal development, I realized weaknesses in my attitude which blocks my own happiness, productivity, success and healthy relationships. My lack of ability to adapt to circumstances was one to blame.

Three Benefits of Adapting
1. Open to Opportunity

Being perfectionist and keen to detail was my greatest asset as a Professional Accountant. But it became a burden as an entrepreneur and in my personal life. As such, I realized that when you are too idealist or perfectionist you tend to become closed-minded. You become too hard to deal with because you are not open to listen to other’s way of thinking. As a result, you missed to grab other great opportunities by sticking and closing your mindset into your ideals.

When you are not able to adapt, it’s hard for you to cope with unendear circumstance. You tend to react, stress and be negative when things don’t work according to your ideals or what you want. But if you know how to adapt, you are more open to other people’s opinion and ideas. In fact, you even observe and copy great ideas from other people. And as you do this, you become more open to better opportunities, both in your personal and professional life.

. Increased Learning

Another benefit of being adaptable is increased learning. By being adaptable and acceptable to things outside your ideals and beliefs, you are able to expose yourself into different things. By doing so, you extend yourself into different things which makes you learn more. And when you know more, a higher chance that you will be able to explore and find where you can live your life to the fullest.

3. Survive in Anything

I’m fond of watching documentary in History Channel or National Geographic, especially when they talk about the earth and its years of existence. An interesting topic I was able to watch was about the evolution of the living things, or species, which resided Earth through million years. It mentioned that most species got extinct because of their inability to adapt. However, there are few species which survived their class up until now.

Upon watching the said documentary, I realized it was applicable to humans too. Whether it’s at home, work, school or community, if you don’t know how to adapt, eventually you will find it hard to live. Those who survive in anything know how to adapt. While those who don’t end up miserable, unhappy and dead.

Thank to life to fullest


If I could have just a wish

If I could have just one wish,
I would wish to wake up everyday
to the sound of your breath on my neck,
the warmth of your lips on my cheek,
the touch of your fingers on my skin,
and the feel of your heart beating with mine…
Knowing that I could never find that feeling
with anyone other than you.