Be Happy. Now. By Karl Moore
We’ve all heard it about a million times before.
Live in the moment. Seize the day. Be happy NOW.
In fact, I’m willing to bet that you’ve heard it so many times, it no longer really means anything anymore.
Let’s be honest. If everyone in the world decided to treat each moment as if it were their last, we’d spend our life savings on fast cars, expensive champagne and dubious encounters one day – then regret it all the next.
No. Being happy now is not about extreme living.
Rather, it’s about making a decision not to put off your happiness until tomorrow.
You know, there’s a popular sign in British pubs that reads:
“Free Beer Tomorrow!”
And it always makes me smile. Because, of course, tomorrow never comes.
Most of us spend our time putting off happiness until some future point. Next week, next month, next year. At one point in my life, I spent about seven years working like a dog – and telling myself “Don’t worry, I’ll be happy next year!”
Of course, next year never came.
Here are a couple of quick home-truths:
Firstly, you might be dead tomorrow. You really might. You might not even make tomorrow. The only thing you know that you have for sure is this very moment. Realize that!
Secondly, you’ll die with a TO DO list. You won’t ever get everything sorted. Accept that and move on. Don’t put off your smile just because you’re waiting to “finish” everything.
So, what do we do?
Make the decision to be happy now.
Ask yourself: If not now, when?
Let’s do a little experiment.
Try to randomly catch yourself at some point today, and check what you’re thinking about.
You might be in the past: Thinking about what happened last week, how that person spoke to you, what a great time you had at the party, how embarrassed you were about the wine incident.
You might be in the future: Worried about what you did and how it’ll cause you problems, concerned about how the holiday will eventually work out, fretting over future IRS investigations.
But I’m willing to bet that you are NOT in the present.
Your mind will be thinking about anything but now!
You see, we each spend 95% of our time either reconstructing the past or daydreaming about the future. Yet we rarely spend any time actually in this very moment! And our real happiness lies here – in this single moment.
By learning to live more for, and in, the moment, we become happier people – which is, ultimately, one of the most important goals in the self-development journey.
So, realize to yourself that this moment is all you have. It’s the only time you have to change or do anything.
In fact: You are only what exists in this moment.
Are you happy right now? Have you been truly living in the moment? What would you change in this moment to make you feel better? Could you follow your bliss even more?
For a moment, join me in a quick exercise. Sit there right now, and consider your thoughts. Try for a moment to get into the now.
Let’s think about what matters. We only have this moment, we know that. So forget about the past – it’s history. It’ll never come back and it doesn’t matter to us right now. And ignore the future – it’s just a fantasy right now.
Think about what really matters – this very moment.
Get lost in the moment and discover what’s really important. You should find yourself freeing up, opening, feeling more happy and alive. You become more aware of your breathing, your heart, your body.
Gone are your worries of the past. Gone are your fears of the future. Gone are crazy labels, like pain or embarrassment. The only thing which matters is this moment, and how you react to it.
Make a decision to smile, too. Because happiness is now!
So, the next time you reach a red light – and suddenly stop singing your favorite song, because nearby drivers are watching – make the decision to be happy now and continue blasting out that tune!
The next time you decide to save your best clothes and favorite perfume for that elusive rainy day – make the decision to be happy now, dress smart and smell great!
The more we live for this moment, the happier we become.
Try reminding yourself of this mindset each morning, or whenever you’re feeling stressed. It’ll help put things back into perspective.
So, stop putting off your happiness until tomorrow – and you’ll naturally become a happier person, and take a quantum leap in your self-development journey.
Remember: If not now, when?